It feels nice to be back. A year + has gone by since we moved to Virginia. It is very lovely here, and we are enjoying new beginnings. During those months, we worked from sun to sun to restore our 1910 farmhouse – an immense endeavor. We stayed with my sister and b-i-l, and traveled over an hour each way every day. We still have tons of work to do but we were able to move in during the first seven months. We kept as many as the original features as we could, and strived to achieve a rustic early american look. I think we achieved what we set out to do. In two words – thrilling exhaustion. Will we ever attempt this again? I doubt it, but one never knows, so I’ll leave it at that. For some of you who might be thinking of undertaking a similar endeavor, this is what I learned.
- It is more work than you will ever imagine.
- It takes more time and money than budgeted.
- You will drive each other crazy to the point of no return at times.
- Sometimes, you will doubt your strength to keep on going, but somehow you do go on.
- Expect the unexpected.
- Be prepared to handle good moments, somber moments, crazy moments, sad moments, angry moments, and happy moments.
- You need to pat each other on the back to keep going.
- When you see the results of your hard work, it pays, and it feels very good.
- You must have patience, endurance, and vision.
During that time we were offline and totally disconnected. I found that I enjoyed the time away from all of it. During my free moments I managed to write The Five-dollar Miracle the old-fashioned way – via pen and paper. It is in the first stage of revision and editing, and I hope that by the end of this year it will be published. This one is a bit different from my previous works.
To all of you who followed this blog and read some of the older posts while I was away, I thank you.
This is a topic that best relates to people who might be going through significant changes in their lives or careers – I am one of those people. I can say that when your life is in transition, that middle spot where you try to “hold it together” may seem as if you have been put “on hold” for a while, despite of the changes occurring and new plans taking shape. When there is such “in between,” restlessness and impatience can happen because your excitement to start the new phase is making you anxious to move on with your plans already; however, many times, the “in between” extends (sometimes long) and you may feel idling on empty. New projects have to wait, and old and current ones may seem stale or boring. That is because you have outgrown the current phase, and are eager to move on to the next one. The problem is that when you are “on hold” there is always the risk of becoming uninspired or loosing interest, as if you might be falling backwards. So, how to fight this feeling? What to do when you are “on hold?”
The best way is to keep working on your current projects, however learning new things. One way in which I try to keep inspired is by using the transitional period to plan and craft a set of new projects and a new territory chart. Making an open plan for when the transition is over, will help you become inspired and keep you away from feeling restless or anxious. If the changes are in a 360 degree way, then there is plenty in which you can plan, chart your steps, and educate yourself on new matters. It is the perfect time to craft the foundation of your new endeavor and to work on some projects for when the ball starts rolling. You will be ahead of time.
Starting a new lifestyle? Moving to another state or country? Starting a new business or line of work? Undergoing a total change? Think of all the things that will be new to you and start learning about them. Being “on hold” can actually be grounding and work to your advantage. Soon, you will find that there are more things to learn and plan for than there are hours in your day. It becomes exhilarating! You may find yourself wishing for more “in between” time.