Life in the Countryside

Crisp air mornings are here, and so is the intoxicating scent of leaves on the ground, moist with morning dew, a favorite scent of mine. Quiet mornings begin slowly as birds leave, and less and less remain. The sun starts to paint the lazy skies of autumn, pink hues, fire in the evenings, and sometimes the veil of fog covers the painting. Crazy crows remain, a cacophony that I enjoy early morning. The sweetness of the countryside giving way to each season’s magic.

The work on this old farmhouse continues, slowly now, as more challenges appear. The flags have been planted; a new water well will be dug soon, hopefully, soon enough. Many families have had to go through this process or are in waiting. The drought season has been, still is, extreme, and the prayers for rain ascend to the heavens, one household at a time. No one knows when a challenging drought is going to hit an area, for people a very undesirable expense, for well drillers, the perfect ingredient for bread and butter. But seasons flow naturally, the seasons of life do as well, and in each season, there’s always a bit of joy to be found.

The hanging Virginia Creeper is manifesting all her glorious colors. (Photo by M.A.D.)
A gigantic nest of the Bald-face hornet. They too will go through their season. The nest will be abandoned soon; only the new queens will survive and leave, the rest will die; their purpose complete. (Photo by M.A.D.)
It is a time to indulge in a few oldies that are still my favorites. (Photo by M.A.D.)

On the old farmhouse front, a few rooms have gone through some minor changes. After almost 11 years of living here, one learns what works and what does not, as well as what can be made better or more efficient, but also, beautiful. If one thing I have learned throughout this process is to not rush it, but to live in the spaces, and see what they want to become; to let the house reveal itself, slowly. The upstairs, although in the process of being repainted, has gone through minor updates during the past decade.

The upstairs bedroom has become a guest bedroom, and a cozy area has been added to it. (Photo by M.A.D.)

The office has gone through a few changes as well. Some things have been eliminated or moved, and we have added others, but overall, a better setting than when we started to figure out things.

One of the most and needed changes was to have a bedroom downstairs, which is essential if we want to age in place, or stay longer here. We realized how important that was once I hurt my knee, and the steep stairs became an issue. The previous living room set up was eliminated to create a downstairs bedroom, and the dining room was eliminated to accommodate a living room, resulting in an eat-in kitchen, which is undergoing some minor adjustments. The new bedroom is almost finished minus a few details. I will share a few pictures when it is finished. If you are not familiar with this blog and the process this old farmhouse has endured, along with us, you can see photos of its dilapidated state on previous posts under Fixing an old farmhouse. This process has been part of my journey as an independent writer.

The old dining room is now the living room, requiring a complete different set up due to the way walls and windows differ from the previous set up. A long curtain has been added to cover the stairwell during winter, so heat remains downstairs during cold evenings. Old farmhouses are cold and built differently as far as walls and insulation goes. I leave you with an introduction to the new space for the bedroom downstairs. To be continued … Hope that you enjoyed this post.

The new bedroom is now in its last finishing touches. (Photo by M.A.D.)

Reduced to Your Possessions

When I decided to live in a more present and simpler way, one of the effects that happened almost as a natural reaction was for me to rid of excess in my life, material and other. After evaluating much of my life in a systemic way, I started to let go of stuff first, and eventually, of every other thing that did not fell into balance with my life’s systems. Stuff was a significant area for me, years of accumulation, of excess. This act of letting go opened my eyes to many areas, and I became aware of how possessions dictate on one’s way of living, how people identify with their possessions, and ultimately, how one’s identity can be reduced to one’s possessions, by ourselves and by the perception of others as well. Our living is reduced to maintaining such possessions, and in a way, the stuff that was supposed to enhance living, ends up diminishing it.

I remember attending a funeral when I was much younger, and as I approached the widow to give her my condolences, I decided to wait aside until she finished her conversation with a couple. Without intention, I overheard the man asking this grieving widow how much she wanted for her late husband’s car. Obviously, it was not the time and place to ask that question. This scene stayed in my mind until today. It made me realized how people see other people after death, and how inconsiderate a person who is materially oriented can become. On a more recent observation of human behavior, I observed how a man who owned many vehicles was reduced to his possessions after he died. The next day, there were many takers looking to buy his vehicles. One of them, even checking out a motorcycle during the family service which was at the home of the deceased. This reminded me of the first incident that happened many years ago, its similarity, and made me think of how I would like to be remembered when I go to meet my maker. I am sure that most of us have heard stories about family feuds after a patriarch or matriarch dies, and of siblings fighting for an inheritance and relationships being broken for the same reasons. It happens in the closest of families.

I am not a minimalist, and I can appreciate beautiful things, but I don’t want my identity to be based on stuff, neither how other people might remember me by. When we approach the relation to our possessions as stewards of the material blessings we receive instead of owners or collectors, we become more grateful, but also more generous. We also learn to see people for their true essence and not their status or material abundance, and as a default, we end up having better human to human interactions once we remove the material filter.

Little Miracles of Life

Tiniest snail (Photo by M.A.D.)

I was helping my husband who was working on our water well. The area we live in has been in severe drought, and has not recovered yet, so our well was not working properly. His tools were scattered all over the ground, so I started to gather them in one place. As I picked up the tool in the above photo, I thought dirt was attached, but upon closer inspection, I realized it was the tiniest snail I have ever seen. In the photo, you can see it between the numbers 2.5 and 3. Very gently, I picked it up and put it in a safe place in the garden. Nature is just amazing and it speaks constantly of the wonders of our Lord.

A Robin’s Tale

Robin (Photo by M.A.D.)

Since childhood, we are conditioned to see things as useful, utilitarian, and with a purpose. We learn it from our parents, at school, and later on, from all the messages we receive from society. The messages tell us that things must have a purpose, a use, to be valuable. We learn to equate utility with value, and eventually, with how good or bad things are. It is a subtle message, one that can hardly be spotted in our minds, in the way we view and judge things/people/life.

The robins are back, a sign that the lovely weather of spring days will soon arrive. Although they have their place in nature, it is not obvious to me how they impact an environment. At first glance, they might not seem “useful” at all, but for me, it is a sight that besides beauty, it brings me joy, peace, and relaxation. For me, they are valuable. Things don’t have to always be useful to be valuable. The mere existence of those pudgy birds is enough. God made them perfect.

Sometimes, we judge ourselves, we measure ourselves with the same ruler. We judge our value according to how “useful” we are, to how much we do in a day, how successful we are in life, how much money or possessions we have, or not. We go a step further and we compare ourselves to other people, whom we also judge, and we mentally and emotionally assign ourselves a “place” in the timeline of success. We think that we are in a lesser position than we should be, or that we are not enough according to those imaginary standards.

The same God who created the robins created us with value to Him. As part of His magnificent and perfect creation we have a valuable place in it, whether we see it or not. Maybe if we can accept our being, the immense value we have to our Creator, we might not be so harsh unto ourselves, and maybe, we will start seeing ourselves and our brothers and sisters with the loving eyes of our Creator, who is the perfect source of it all, including us, and the robins.

This Old Farmhouse

One thing that we have learned by living here is that we are never completely done as far as projects and unexpected things. This year, we have put some projects aside and have decided to “listen to the house” and see what it wants, and evaluate if after years of living in it, our vision is still aligned with it or if we should adjust or deviate from some projects. One of the things we realized is that because we have agreed to age in this house until a certain point, a bedroom on the first floor would be necessary, eventually, thus posing the dilemma of assigning different uses to rooms. It is also time to refresh the paint, and rethink previous choices.

Turning 60 did something to me, an overnight change that I was not expecting. My husband thinks that one of the “pods” exploded overnight and replaced me. I am not sure why, but suddenly life takes another meaning. It presents new possibilities but also grounds you as far as “real time.” What was so important might not be as important anymore, and priorities shift. Time is seen and valued in a different perspective, but also, not taken for granted. Other things don’t seem to matter or bother me anymore. What was, becomes questionable and what is, seems to take another meaning; somehow, what will be does not occupy center place anymore. Complacency or peaceful arrival? It doesn’t even matter. Likes and dislikes changed overnight or at least feels like they did. A new person emerges out of a years’ slumber. Everything is questionable and all is well. Battles are chosen or not at all. That is the best way I can describe it. This of course, affects how I see and interact with my new discovered environment.

We have halted some projects, reviewed others, and scrapped a few. This year, we have not proceeded with any new projects, only clean up, some minor painting, and future considerations. We did not plant anything. This old farmhouse is on standby for now. We have tons of grapes in the grapevine ready to be harvested soon, and picked tons of blueberries, but only a few strawberries this year.

Summer Yummy

We transplanted one of the little cedars that I was growing in a pot. The other two went to my sister’s home. So far, it is doing fine in its new spot in the ground.

The king of the trees

Spring was lovely around here. It has rained a lot during Spring and Summer. Today, we have cooler temperatures, but overall, it was not a hot summer, with the exception of a couple of weeks. The garden did very well.

The weather was on and off; we even had a small rainbow in the backyard while it was pouring rain, and the sun was out, all at the same time.

Lucky charm. One of the most beautiful sights of a very close and low rainbow. I regret not stepping outside and try to “touch it,” but it was raining hard while the sun was fully out.

For now, we are concentrating our efforts on doing some painting indoors and working out the idea of converting the living room into a bedroom and rethinking the downstairs arrangement. No new outdoor projects are taking place for the remainder of this year. Overall, it has been a very pleasant Spring and Summer, and I have enjoyed this year’s mild weather. I am looking forward to the next two seasons.

Lost and Found

Photo by M.A.D.

She stared at me, her semblance a bit familiar. She seemed a bit tired, a gaze serious enough for me to notice her. Her features spoke to me of olden days, her faint smile, of recognition. A kin allure of something once shared. I studied her face. She glanced back, truth or dare. Not until I journeyed deep into her eyes, did I truly see the woman in the mirror.

Fixing Up an Old Farmhouse – The Front Entrance Area

There are a few farmhouse projects that have been on hold, but we managed to complete one, sprucing up and beautifying a bit the front entrance to the property. This area used to be overgrown grass and weeds. Although we want to continue improving it by adding a few more plants, we will have to select plantings that do well in the shade. So far, the ones we selected have been thriving. It is a challenge to add color to this area because most flowering plants like the sun.

My husband built a simple bench with recycled wood, and we added a few plants around it that will continue to grow. A few recycled tiles were placed in front of it. We added mulch and a few solar lights, stones, and garden decor. We also added a solar light post. (Photo by M.A.D.)
The view from the opposite side. We used logs from the fallen pine trees to delineate the area and keep the leaves from blowing all over the place.

I am very happy with how the garden has been growing and developing over the past few years. It keeps growing stronger and seems to be established. Here is a picture of a lovely floral arrangement I made from its offerings. Eventually, I would like to develop a small rose garden.

Roses from the garden (photo by M.A.D.)

Nature heals the soul. Even the simple things in nature bring joy and peace in our hearts.

Photo by M.A.D.

Hope you enjoyed reading about this latest project.

Reflections: One Day at a Time, One Step at a Time

Photo by M.A.D

One day at a time, one step at a time.

Life would be much more pleasant if we would live in that way. This is a lesson I learned later in life. In my younger years, multitasking and the idea of a “superwoman” who thrived on a crammed schedule and did everything to perfection was idealized. Many of us, gender aside, followed that way of living in our everyday interaction. I remember feeling “guilty” if I had “free time” to myself and even worrying that I were to become lazy if I indulged on even an hour of “unproductive” being. The years passed by, and I had become entrapped in one of the biggest lies Society sold me. When I think about it, that way of life was very materialistic in essence, even when I never saw myself as a materialistic person, on the contrary.

Today, I repeated this question, what is truly important to me? Throughout the years, the answer has been narrowed to include the issues at the core of my true values and loves. Today, I finally understand the meaning of living one day at a time, one step at a time, and from that realization, a sense of peace within that recognizes that life is not a race, and I don’t need trophies or crowns to validate my existence; God has already done so when He made me. It is beautiful to achieve dreams and to celebrate our achievements and of others as well, but not at the expense of living. The mere existence of achieving without the joy and beauty of living is contraindicating. Maybe Hans Christian Anderson understood this well.

“Just living is not enough, said the butterfly, one must have sunshine, freedom, and a little flower.” Hans Christian Anderson