This morning, as I scanned the FB comments, I stopped at one made by Paolo Coelho – “What other people think of you is none of your business.” I thought, excellent words of wisdom, but not easy to follow them. The truth is that doing that is really very difficult because it goes against our human nature. As a social species, we want to be liked by others, and we love to be accepted and celebrated by others. We want to share our wisdom with others, wether blogging, writing a book, talking to family or friends, thru a painting exposition … We want to achieve but we also want those achievements to be recognized. We do mind what other people think and say of us, and maybe we give too much importance on what others think of us. That is why I thought that those words were such an epiphany – “What other people think of you is none of your business.”
If we lived that way we would be so much happier with the world around us and with the world within us. We would be less critical of others and of ourselves. We would spend less time worrying and sulking and more time dreaming and doing. Ever tried to talk to someone who refutes or challenges every word that comes from your mouth – even if you are talking about laundry? Well, I have, and let me tell you that it is the hardest thing to do, because it is impossible to have a normal conversation with that person. This is when those words work well and instead of forcing a conversation or defending mine, I choose to mind my fabulous business and shut up, and in the way to happy land, I realize that Paolo Coelho is right – what other people think of me is none of my fabulous business.