marriage

Love

/ inkspeare
After almost 38 years of marriage, I still keep his first gift. (Photo by M.A.D.)

Love is all kinds of things to all kind of people, but one thing love is to all – it is the only thing left when there is nothing else, and the only thing you have to give when there is nothing left at all.

Wishing you all a Happy Valentines Day!

Shakespeare a Day 9

/ inkspeare

Malvolio and the Countess

Image via Wikipedia

“Many a good hanging prevents a bad marriage.”  (Twelfth Night, or What You Will)

This one made me smile.  Although it refers to a hanging as punishment, and in the context of Shakespeare’s play, it made me think about the small issues in a marriage.  The economic meltdown in the country affected many families and brought the best and bad in us.  So, what prevents a bad marriage and promotes a good one?  A good hanging – well, let’s not get scared here, metaphorically speaking.

There are many little issues that we keep inside to ourselves and eat away our spirits, our love, our marriage.  Maybe it would be a good idea to do a symbolical hanging of all the small issues that we carry on the inside, and expose them, hang them, or hang them to dry if you must, let the sunshine lighten the load, and work them out with your love one.

For Better or for Worst … Love Needs to Be Shared

/ inkspeare

Television icons

Image via Wikipedia

For better or for worst, in sickness or in health, in good times and bad times … We are familiar with this sentence, at least if you are married or attended a wedding, saw one on TV, and do not live under a rock.  Love needs to be shared under all those conditions.  The divorce statistics may point to the contrary.

I don’t consider myself an eavesdropper, but I am amused by the conversations I get to listen to when I am waiting online, at a Dr.’s office, post office … Many times, you hear “the bashing of the love one,” – good title for a song.  Men or women, they all do it, they express their dissatisfaction with the love in their lives.  True or not, it is a matter of perspective for many – discounting abuse cases, of course.

The point is, we are sometimes quick to judge our loved ones.  Quick to request perfection, when what we are looking for is a companion who will take us seriously in good times and in bad times.  The following questions offer much insight.

  • Does he/she listens when you talk (when you truly talk)?
  • Does he/she cares, even when it doesn’t show?
  • Does he/she want to be with you forever?
  • Do you see the good in him/her?  Is is more than the flaws?
  • Did you once felt that the two of you could tackle everything, the world?
  • Do you feel tired?
  • Do you need to step back and look at the whole picture?
  • Do you believe?
  • Do you need to ask/answer these questions?

Sometimes, the answers can be found in the questions.