Love is all kinds of things to all kind of people, but one thing love is to all – it is the only thing left when there is nothing else, and the only thing you have to give when there is nothing left at all.
Wishing you all a Happy Valentines Day!
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“That death’s unnatural that kills for loving.” – Othello, the Moor of Venice
Love, such a short and simple word, and so much goes into it. Most things we do during our days on Earth we do for Love – for love of someone, of something, for love of money, for love of success, for love of the planet, of its people, for love of material things … Whether that Love is right or wrong, in our minds, we do it just for Love. Crimes of passion are said to be committed out of Love – love that has sickened and crossed the line towards death. Even the denial of oneself for the pleasing of the loved one, is out of love. All is done in the name of Love. Love is pure, a higher essence; in our humanity, or twisted humanity, we corrupt it.
Today, think of it – what do you love? why do you love?
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Equalizing – To make equal (as defined by the American Heritage Dictionary).
I was pondering the success or failure of many relationships, even the ones that seem like a match made in heaven, but fail. I wondered why. There are many reasons for that, I assume – financial, infidelity … the list is long. However, there must be a constant that can encompass all those reasons. The word equalizing seems to cover that ground.
I have never been a fan of the 50/50 rule for couples. I don’t think it is real, and I don’t think it works. In a relationship, there is never a 50/50 give or take. Simply put, we are not machines, we do not function as exact mathematical equations, it is just not natural. This is why I think that the word equalizing makes more sense.
In trying to make something equal, one most try to balance, stabilize, counterbalance, and steady what is not. Therefore, it is a matter of both individuals working together to try to balance or equalize an issue.
In the 50/50 deal, a couple will try to give half effort, in hopes that the other will put in the other half – this never works out that exact way, someone always puts in a bit more or less – 40/60%, 30/70%, 80/20% … This is turn, can result in resentment on one of the parts, disagreements, turmoil …
Equalizing relationships without looking for a 50/50 solution will help both parties contribute the part that is missing, and hopefully, the percentages of contribution will fluctuate between both individuals and balance (equalize) the relationship. But that is just my humble opinion.
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For better or for worst, in sickness or in health, in good times and bad times … We are familiar with this sentence, at least if you are married or attended a wedding, saw one on TV, and do not live under a rock. Love needs to be shared under all those conditions. The divorce statistics may point to the contrary.
I don’t consider myself an eavesdropper, but I am amused by the conversations I get to listen to when I am waiting online, at a Dr.’s office, post office … Many times, you hear “the bashing of the love one,” – good title for a song. Men or women, they all do it, they express their dissatisfaction with the love in their lives. True or not, it is a matter of perspective for many – discounting abuse cases, of course.
The point is, we are sometimes quick to judge our loved ones. Quick to request perfection, when what we are looking for is a companion who will take us seriously in good times and in bad times. The following questions offer much insight.
Sometimes, the answers can be found in the questions.
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